I am not watching..

There is etiquette which one should follow when working in an office. People like to present themselves as decent as possible. They carry a smile, greet others, be cautious about their habits. For some its not a big deal to follow these, some handle all this very deceitfully as in they are different persona when in office and outside...and then there are exceptions..some people do not give a damn and behave as they wish without bothering what the world thinks about them.....

Anyways coming back to etiquette and people...we sometimes tend to forget where we are and what we are doing! Happens many times with me too... I end up doing something which I regret later! I started thinking of instances which happened in public and the persons involved never bothered about what others might be thinking.

Obviously we ignore when such things happen but isn't it better not to have an embarrassing episode

But yeah people need to take care of what NOT to do in public. Following are some examples (pun intended):

• Do not teach your kid any bollywood song involving Himesh Reshamiya's vocals
• Do not take your kid along with you in a trial room of a store (Kids can shout loudly upon seeing big belly button)
• Do not yell at your spouse for getting a pizza with wrong toppings
• And then do not fight over who gets the larger pie
• Do not brag about your smart phone in a bus or train (Almost all have got an iphone or android with them nowadays)

So all in all sometimes we need to be cautious of the watchful eyes when in public. This post is dedicated to all those people who had their share of 'moments' under my watchful eyes/ears which encouraged me writing in this space :)

Time....Can I hold on to some :)

Okay so its November and I just realized that I did not write any post in October. Somehow I didn't realize that its been a while I was away from blogosphere! This made me think that why didn't I write something here....And the reason was I had no time!! I could not believe that there was no time for me to scribble some words here! Time really flies..or does it!??!!

We all have our set routine for everyday which some of us religiously follow and some do not. Each one of us gets the same number of hours at our disposal. We can do anything we want. Sometimes we feel that the time is not enough for our chores and sometimes we have plenty of time. There is one more stage where in we procrastinate. We know we have to do some work and we have time too but its our laziness/fear/anxiety coz of which we do not go ahead and do it! This happens with us many times (rings a bell??)

Minutes pass, hours go, days fly, months are gone and we realize OMG the year has come to an end!! Whoaa!! 

They say make hay while the sun shines, a stitch in time saves nine, time and tide wait for none! so many wise old sayings about TIME which each one of us has irrespective of whether one is rich or poor, old or young.

Its up to us what exactly to do with the time we have :)

Finally I got to complete my post...........wish I could really hold on to some TIME!! :)

Comparison

Remember the ad when one lady says  'उसकी साड़ी मेरी साड़ी से सफ़ेद कैसे ?' ..... It all starts by comparing. Comparison is the best way to find how any product/item/person stands among the rest. We all know that nobody and nothing in this world is perfect! So we can compare things and find out what is better for us.

Constant comparison makes one to seek perfection. If you are not compared to anything you won't feel the drive to become better in something. This is one aspect of comparison.

Second is that if someone is constantly compared (by others or by self) with somebody better say X then that person tends to try to become like X and if not able to achieve that the that person is susceptible to become depressed and jealous of X.

Comparison often brews jealousy.

We can compare products/items/movies  to  one another but not  people because every individual is unique and no one in this world is perfect ! One can seek perfection but can never attain it. Even when  products are launched in market they are not 100% efficient or 100% error free. So just look up to the people who are better  in things than you and get inspired and not jealous that is a better way to become better :)  and happy                                                                         

Double Standards

Double standards which is known as दोहरे मापदंड in Hindi seem to be unconsciously in every individual's mind and each one of us have used them at some point of time. This is one more aspect of human mind.

How much ever we think we are open minded, we tend to use them somewhere or other :)

If I do 'that' its right but if someone else does 'that' its wrong!! This is the basic funda of double standards. Following are some examples which I realized while thinking about this topic.

When there is racial abuse to an Indian anywhere in the world, people in India get all anxious and speak out in one voice to protest but in India itself people are divided, do not like 'outsiders' who are no doubt Indians but not from their state., and would not think twice to outcast them. This was one example of if I may say 'mass double standards'. 
You are standing in a line and some one cuts it, reaches to the counter first and then you grumble, get irritated and sometimes go and shout at that person; some other time you have to go and stand in a line and somehow you get to cut the line and reach the counter and then you hear people grumbling and you say whats the big deal?? take a chill pill!!! (Rings a bell does it???)

The world is getting smaller day by day, no distance is far so people move to different places to earn better livelihood. People leave their homeland and migrate elsewhere for better prospects, no harm in that but if someone else comes to their native for a job then there is a problem, they don't like it. They feel that their homeland is being exploited by people for their own interests but they do not realize that what they are doing is no different. What an irony!

Sometimes at work, or in a group there will be one or two people who would not do 'something' (which may have not good aftermaths) but they would not miss a chance to encourage others to do that. Not fair isn't it??

This blog may not have been written with great examples but what I want to convey is that people should respect others and should not be judgmental every-time since they themselves might have done some acts which would not have been right according to their own perspective.

Friendship...

Its not very easy to find true friends in the time where we have competition in each nook of world. Be it a kid or a grown up to find real good friends it takes time. A person becomes friend by chance, one cannot make friends..friendship just happens. There are times when you tend to meet people specially in new place and then you think that they are your friends but no they are just acquaintances. It is the need which makes you interact and not the feeling. And to feel that they are friends is a big mistake which one gradually realizes. There is  no harm in hanging out with acquaintances coz sometimes they too become good friends since some people take time to open up and once they do  you sometimes get the best of friends. There are people who tend to talk to you, be nice to you but it is for their own interests which are hidden and emerge later on. How to identify such people?

• They are too sweet to you (too much sugar spoils the tea)
• They pretend to hear you actually are scanning through you (is she gullible?  guess she has got some influence! lol )
• They show unnecessary concern over small things ( I was so upset that you did not reply to my scrap)
• They act as if you are the world for them ( I missed you so much! (Its been jus 1 day we didnt meet!))
• Once their interests are gone, they would not care less about you. (Hi long time how are you ? ok then bye!)

The points stated above may not be the ONLY ones. One should not struggle to become someones friend coz friendship is effortless.
Being good friends with people of same frequency can be some of the best times. So lets have a healthy, selfless, fun filled friendship :))

Expectations

Why do we have expectations?? Why does it hurt when they are not met ?? Then why do we always have them....!! Its a vicious cycle. Everyone expects something from someone. I am yet to meet a person who has no expectations what so ever! But yes there is one good thing that not everyone has the same level of expectations. People tend to hurt themselves due to these. So the question is why do we have them in the first place. This is something to do with human psychology. Every individual is here dependent on someone or the other for some reason. No one in this world can function independently. What I mean is every person has a reason to be dependent; a boss on his subordinates for work completion, husband on wife (and vice versa) for household chores and or emotional support so on and so forth...and hence we kind of expect from the people around whom we are dependent on for things which may not be as important to them. Now when the expectations are high the person will not be happy as they are never met, or if  expectations are from wrong person, eventually the level of well being deteriorates. The best way to cope up is not to have many expectations and do our duties happily. Having minimal expectations from others will not only keep us from being unhappy, it also reduces the 'load' on persons struggling to keep up to them. Doing our duties happily and willfully (with no or minimum expectations from others) as an employee or boss or husband or wife or sibling will make us a lot better and this world a better place with one less thing to crib about - EXPECTATIONS :)

Rush to............. Nowhere

The fast paced life keeps everyone on their toes. Nobody has time to think about the world, see the bloom in their garden, smell the wet soil in the first rain, appreciate nature, have a casual chat with people around.... People just do not have time and they also do not want to 'waste' the 'little time' they have.  Where ever I go, seems that people are always in a hurry. They hurry getting into a bus or train and then again they rush to get off.They have to be first in the check out counter in a store, they hate to be in a line that is kind of slow moving! Why!! What will they miss if they wait for their turn coolly? I do not understand why there is always a rush everywhere! No one wants to let other person go; he/she has to be the first one everywhere! This kind of mentality makes people forget the small things which for them might be insignificant but if given a thought may be some of the precious moments which one seldom gets.I just hope that this rush will not be there forever :)

Social Networking!!!

Yeah right...I am talking about orkutting, facebooking, twittering...!! I am having all the three accounts. These are very good sites to connect with old lost friends and acquaintances and get updated about them and also let them know what you have been upto. I got many of my old school friends with whom I had lost contact on Orkut in which I had joined my school community. It was overwhelming to know about them after many years and I was so thankful to Orkut :). Then I opened my account in Facebook thanks to the numerous invitations I had got in my email out of which half were sent 'by default' by Facebook as they were from the 'friends' who had my email id but never were in touch! It was little difficult to get accustomed with Facebook initially but in sometime I got the hang of it. I increased my friends list very slowly as I didnt want many people. I keep getting friends request from people whom I dont even know and have one or two common friends. I dont understand why people want to increase their friends list. I like quality and not quantity. Now one more thing I have noticed is 'online PDA'. I am not against it nor its a big deal but its something that has been introduced by these sites. Hubby giving compliments to wify and vice versa; wife complaining about hubby's behavior.... In short the conversation which should happen in person happens online! and is open to people to read!!! funny right :P..!!! Its good entertainment though! 
There was news about privacy threat on Facebook. Hope FB is fixing the issue to avoid further annoyance. There were some advertisements for people to not upload personal information and photographs on FB. The craze of FB is so much that in a survey they said that first thing in morning people do is ceck their FB account!!
Talking about Twitter which has created its own space in the internet. With so many celebrities getting connected with common people, sharing their thoughts,plans, daily routine,pics and what not! The media is no longer required in between as all the news about these celebrities come directly from them!! As they create news from the tweets posted by celebrities.
So many new words are getting added to English vocab...thanks to these social networking sites.
These sites nevertheless are good place for re-connecting with friends but they will never beat the real time meeting and hanging out with the real friends :)

Happiness

The word itself makes one cheerful.. but what is the real definition of 'happiness'?? For each person the its different... For a child its when he/she gets favorite toy and when its playtime or anything that is amusing...hence they have wide range of happiness. As we grow this range narrows down gradually.. For many people the feeling of happiness is materialistic. And according to me this materialistic happiness is short lived. The other day I got some shopping done and I was very happy with what I had bought for myself and after 2-3 days the stuff had taken its position in my wardrobe and I never bothered to look at it.

The real happiness comes from within. Now I know how to get 'real' happiness..Its when I do something special to someone else. It may not be special to the other person and can be as simple as helping an elderly person cross a road, or give a very nice gift which the other person loves. There are small day to day things which we do and unknowingly become happy; I am now content and don't feel the need of buying expensive stuff just to make me feel happy. But yeah shopping once a while is kinda stress buster...what say ;)

Survival

Life is not an easy path, not a bed of roses.... We start to struggle right from the time we are born in this world. My opening line would have made you wonder that I have read/heard this somewhere. You are right this statement is not aboriginal. Every living being on this planet earth has to struggle in order to survive, now you may remember the phrase of Sir Darwin "Survival of the fittest".
I have witnessed drastic weather change around. The fall showed colors of leaves changing from green to red, orange, pink.. simply awesome.... Then slowly the bizarre winds started and the leaves parted from trees and as the winter approached, the beautiful trees were merely left as skeleton of trunks and branches, they seemed lifeless, seemed as if they would never be able to be flourish and I felt pity on them. They had to withstand the most harsh winter, the snow, the blizzard!
And then as winter faded away I was so happy to see the buds coming out on the very dry and presumed dead branches, it made me realize the power of mother nature and the amazing creation of GOD which in our daily life we never give a thought on. Slowly all trees were blossomed, they looked so rich and I silently praised them for braving the changes around. This taught me how ignorant I have been and also made me realize that just because the environment is not favorable, one should not give up and forget what one is capable of doing. No matter how hostile the conditions be one must be ready to brave them.
Next time you say you have problem and you cant get out of it just think that you are one of the most intelligent specie on the earth and sooner or later you would get the solution.