Its not very easy to find true friends in the time where we have competition in each nook of world. Be it a kid or a grown up to find real good friends it takes time. A person becomes friend by chance, one cannot make friends..friendship just happens. There are times when you tend to meet people specially in new place and then you think that they are your friends but no they are just acquaintances. It is the need which makes you interact and not the feeling. And to feel that they are friends is a big mistake which one gradually realizes. There is no harm in hanging out with acquaintances coz sometimes they too become good friends since some people take time to open up and once they do you sometimes get the best of friends. There are people who tend to talk to you, be nice to you but it is for their own interests which are hidden and emerge later on. How to identify such people?
- They are too sweet to you (too much sugar spoils the tea)
- They pretend to hear you actually are scanning through you (is she gullible? guess she has got some influence! lol )
- They show unnecessary concern over small things ( I was so upset that you did not reply to my scrap)
- They act as if you are the world for them ( I missed you so much! (Its been jus 1 day we didnt meet!))
- Once their interests are gone, they would not care less about you. (Hi long time how are you ? ok then bye!)
The points stated above may not be the ONLY ones. One should not struggle to become someones friend coz friendship is effortless.
Being good friends with people of same frequency can be some of the best times. So lets have a healthy, selfless, fun filled friendship :))
Being good friends with people of same frequency can be some of the best times. So lets have a healthy, selfless, fun filled friendship :))
Nice pointers on how to judge a friend :) I would like to add "A friend in need is a friend indeed" !!!
ReplyDeleteI couldnt agree more :)
ReplyDeleteAwesome Neeli.. This cud be an eye opener for kind hearted people.... who are prone to fall in traps of friendship.... God bless u darling... Keep writing
ReplyDeleteYet again... Very Nicely written...
ReplyDeleteAll of us has fallen into the thinking that someone can be your good friend and tried making a friendship with that intention... This specially happens when you are in new land or a foreign country...
But you said it very correctly that "friendship is effortless".. It just happens..
Lovely post...
Wow ...this was nice. Enlightening. Reminds me of how often I get to hear the lines that you mentioned (or some corollary of them)!
ReplyDeleteSo how would one differentiate between a 'Friend' and an 'Acquaintance'? I once had an amaaaaaazing group of friends! Now each one of them reside in different parts of the world. Leave alone hanging out, even a once in a year get together seems so difficult! What does that make us?
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